Can love make some people do bad things, or do some people do bad things for love? Damaged when he first arrived, Heathcliff whose, ” . . . Reserve springs from an aversion to showy displays of feeling – to manifestations of mutual kindliness. He’ll love and hate equally undercover, and esteem it a species of impertinence to be loved or hated again.” From chapter 3 of Wuthering Heights by Emily Bronte, grew even more so by the love of Catherine.
But their love was a relationship built on complications, sorrow, anger and a bliss that connected the two inexplicably.
It was not only that love that molded him, but the actions of those around him. Yes, we decide who we want to be and how we will react when others do bad things to us. And sadly for him, his reactions led him down a path of destruction of himself and others.
Miss Bronte’s book, a wonderful novel, depicts not only a love story, but the pros and cons of the two central characters that acted like a domino pushing down other dominoes. A story about love and all its mess. Love is like that, sometimes. And Laurence Olivier did a remarkable job playing him.
But we must define the meaning of a soulmate. One must decide whether it will be love or an obsession, which is dangerous. If one will toy with another person’s emotions, which should not be done. To what extent will he/she go to to protect that love, and most importantly, HOW he/she will love someone. Because it is in the how that will define his/her actions.
It is not always happy, and I guess for some, it comes as a shock. “Let love be without dissimulation.” Romans 12 vs 9
But maybe, just maybe, some of us too want a man to love us that way, perhaps absent the madness. 🙂