Gilbert Markham’s Second Impression

Have you ever made up your mind about someone just by the first meeting, but then changed how you felt about that person after getting to know him/her?

“I would rather admire you from this distance, fair lady, than be the partner of your home.”  from chapter 1, The Tenant of Wildfell Hall by Anne Bronte.

I do not believe in first impressions; they can be misleading, as in the case with Gilbert Markham. It was he that wrote that line above after seeing for the first time and then describing Helen Huntingdon. He would later fall in love with her.

Can I dare say that he was moody? Yes he was. Was he jealous? Yes he was, so jealous that he struck another man who he believed was his rival in love. Did he lost his belief in her as he started to believe the rumors and gossip? Yes he did. Did he eventually “come to his senses” after maturing in his thinking and in his love? He sure did.

Miss Bronte’s book, which I enjoyed, captured a few things. Secrecy that led to rumors and the attempted sullying of a woman driven to hide who she was because of a bad, distasteful marriage; people had strong opinions but it did not mean that you had to be influenced by them;  and everything was not as it seemed were just a few of those things.

I guess a dose of discernment, knowledge, common sense and whatever else sure does help when getting to know someone.

Hope everyone had a lovely, sunflower weekend. 🙂

Presently reading The Diary of a Nobody by George and Weedon Grossmith

 

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2 responses to “Gilbert Markham’s Second Impression

  1. i have a strange track of experiences- my first instinct about a person is always accurate.

    i have seen it so many times that i change my opinion after mixing with a person to realize later that i was right when i first saw him/her.

  2. There’s a line in a song by Leann Rimes that goes, “Shame on you if you fool me once; Shame on me if you fool me twice.”

    To each its own. 🙂

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