Monthly Archives: February 2013

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“Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path.” Psalm 119 vs 105

Do You Ever Miss Yourself?

Last week for some reason this line from the movie 300 got stuck in my head. “This is Sparta!”  If you know the events leading up to that line then you would remember that they, well King Leonidas, had to make a choice for his people.

And then while reading a blog last week, I came across this quote. “It is better to be hated for what you are than loved for what you’re not.” Unknown

What do these two things have in common? Knowing who you are, but I want to write about knowing who you were.

There are some, for whatever reason, that have moved away from the persons that they created themselves to be. People true to themselves. People who knew what they stood for. People who based their actions on their beliefs. People who did not run with the crowd or tried to fit in. They have changed and they are not liking it.

Are you comfortable with who you are?

“Destiny is no matter of chance. It is a matter of choice. It is not a thing to be waited for, it is a thing to achieve.” William Jennings Bryan 🙂

In Spite Of

Stretched out in bed. Listened to a bird singing and leaves dancing in the wind. Life is beautiful in spite of . . .

“To know what to do and how to do it is a good thing. To know when to do it is a still better thing. There is a time to act and a time to wait.” Unknown 🙂

What Are In Your Days?

There is a verse in Psalm 90 written by Moses that says, “So teach us to number our days that we may apply our hearts unto wisdom.” It is verse 12.  Not wanting to take it out of context, the point of it was concerning God’s anger.

But as I sat for a moment thinking about it, I thought about the things that we do in our lives. Some may consider them mundane while others consider them something else.

A person looking at birds may not be cool while a person skydiving may be. A person who enjoys things of quiet or silence may be called a starched-shirt, while a person who is active and likes movement and noise may be considered something else. Or it can be vice versa.

The point is are you doing the things that you enjoy? Do they make you happy? Are you fulfilled? Are they worth something to you? Do they add worth? Would God be pleased? So many other questions.

“Your personality should be an external expression of your character.” Tim LaHaye from Understanding the Male Temperament 🙂

Are You Adaptable?

“Don’t get set into one form, adapt it and build your own and let it grow. Be like water. Now you put water in a cup, it becomes the cup; you put water into a bottle, it becomes the bottle; you put it in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Water can flow or it can crash. Be water my friend.” Bruce Lee

Change is constant. It may not happen right away. Probably it will take a few days, months, or years. Other times it can take place in a blink of an eye.  Sometimes it is good, other times, not so good.

What do you do with it when it comes? Fight it? Demand that it does not happen because you are not ready? Or do you adapt, ready or not?

Things That You Love

For me it is God, Jesus, family, friends, sunsets, sunrises, adventures, reading, creative people, reading blogs, chocolate cake, rainy nights and a good movie, history, different cultures, doing crossword puzzles, new experiences, singing in the shower, gardening, and on and on and on 🙂

And you my blog readers. Thanks for stopping by. 🙂

What are some of the things you love?

“Watch your thoughts, they become words. Watch your words, they become actions. Watch your actions, they become habits. Watch your habits, they become character. Watch your character, it becomes your destiny.” Unknown

We Are Not “Family”

There are dysfunctional families. There are dysfunctional functional families. There are good families. There are good families with bad moments. I belong to the second group which sometimes lapse into the first group.

Tomorrow is Valentine’s Day–I am not in love. Not romantically. I love my family and it is they who sometimes have me questioning the meaning of that word.

What is a family? What does it mean to have one? Should all be alike?

I remember reading Jane Howard’s essay, All Happy Clans Are Alike, In Search of the Good Family. The opening lines go like this:- “Call it a clan, call it a network, call it a tribe, call it a family. Whatever you call it, whoever you are, you need one. You need one because you are human. You didn’t come from nowhere.”

Yes, we all need one, but are we happy with the ones we have? In her piece, she also hinted that not only blood relatives can make up a family, sometimes those that are not related by blood make up the better ones.

I do not agree that all families should be alike. I am not ignorant of the fact that each one has its own problems and situations. Not high and mighty to think that we ourselves sometimes are not the reasons for conflicts within them. Not living on a cloud where disappointments will not happen. Not foolish to think that it is always bad, sad, or unhappy.

But to think of the ones where love is absent and anger is constantly present, even when living far apart, is not what I consider units, not a wholesome body. Maybe I am wrong, just maybe . . .

“Sometimes the poorest man leaves his children the richest inheritance.” Ruth E. Renkel 🙂

By the way, I really loved her essay. She listed ten definitions of what a good family should be. You are free to disagree.

1) Good families have someone around whom others cluster and who sets an example.

2) Good families have someone who cannot help but keep track of what all the others are up to. This role is assumed rather than assigned.

3) Good  families are much to all members, but everything to none. Good families are fortresses with many windows and doors to the outer world.

4) Good families are hospitable.

5) Good families deal squarely with direness.

6) Good families prize their rituals. A clan becomes more of a clan each time it gathers to observe a fixed ritual (Christmas, birthdays, Thanksgiving, and so on)

7) Good families are affectionate. This of course is a matter of style.

8) Good families have a sense of place, which these days is not achieved easily.

9) Good families, not just the blood kind, find some way to connect with posterity.

10) Good families also honor their elders.


What Equals Love?

As he/she entered the room, he/she stared in my direction like what seemed like forever. That means a crush is on, right? Love must be in the air.

Not my scenario but  something that I just came up with as I sit here pondering what love really looks like. I know that there are different kinds of love, but how can you tell that it is what it is?

Do some of us read too deeply into other people reactions when we want to be something more or to feel special?

Is a hug just a hug just a hug when we want someone to touch us?

Is sex just sex when we might think this is what love is about even as an emptiness engulfs us?

Are words just words just words when we want something that would touch our hearts and not our ears?

“Hope is wishing for a thing to come true: faith is believing that it will come true.” Norman Vincent Peale 🙂

How Do You Handle Truth?

Have you ever seen A Few Good Men? In the movie Tom Cruise’s character goes, “I want the truth.” Jack Nicholson’s character responds, “You can’t handle the truth!” What ever happened to Mr. Cruise? Blame Top Gun for me thinking that he was an okay actor. I digress. Sorry.

How many of us are that way? Hopefully not all the time, perhaps never, but how many of us are faced with reality, not some airbrushed way of seeing things, but the true colors of how things really are? We might know what the truth is but we just do not want someone else to tell us.

And if and when they do, what is your reaction?

Does truth equal fear or freedom?  Right now I am thinking of Fleetwood Mac’s Tell Me Lies

“In building Christian character, beware of two great enemies: the world and self!” from Grace and Truth Magazine 🙂

Can You Master Yourself?

D. L. Moody once said that he had never met someone that gave him trouble as himself. That led me to think about self-discipline, which led me to think about mastering ourselves.

We constantly are making choices in our lives, some that will last with us for awhile and others, well others that will just float on by. But sometimes, are we strong enough to make the right ones? Those that are and will be good for us? Have we reached a point where we can master our feelings and actions? Or if we cannot master our feelings, then take control of our actions?

Last part of this blog block later. 🙂

“It takes commitment to win. If you’re not committed you won’t be able to put up with the aggravation. You’ll get to the point where it’s just too much hassle and frustration and you’d rather be doing something else.” Dennis Conner 🙂